When Ginger asked about "I messages" on the discussion board (What is an "I" message? What does it mean?
), I did a quick search on the Internet and found a very useful worksheet to work on I messages.
As I mentioned on the board, it is a term coined by Thomas Gordon on conveying your feelings
to the person you are speaking to by beginning your sentence with "I". Usually sentences starting with "you" make the person uncomfortable because they often consist of a judgment about that person. However, sentences starting with "I" reflect how you feel and induce the other person to develop empathy.
The worksheet consists of situations and example I messages to be used in those situations. This is the first example:
Your child, who is usually very talkative,
has been quiet and withdrawn for the last
I feel concerned when you don’t talk to
me because I think I might have done
something to hurt your feelings.
The worksheet is here
(The picture above is the third page of the worksheet, same source.)
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